what do we want?

It seems that there is no right or wrong way of loving in our society anymore. This is not a bad thing, I think, just a bit confusing. On the one hand people seem to be going back to the traditional “k-i-s-s-i-n-g, first comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby in the baby carriage” but then there’s also the exact opposite; people getting into open relationships, or choosing to be a single parent, or you know the endless amount of possibilities we have now-a-days.  

 For me personally though, I’m not sure what I would want. Right now nothing. And if you know me, you know I change my mind quite a lot, so I don’t think I should decide now what I want in the future. I think we don’t really know what we want anymore because everywhere around us people are divorcing and cheating and there is stress and unhappiness. It scares us. But does it make us wiser or just cowards? I guess if I have to choose, that in the end I would like to have a family of my own… but is this just because that’s how we have been raised, and because watching endless amounts of disney movie’s have brainwashed us? Don’t get me wrong, I love Disney, but still it always ends with the princess and the prince living happily ever after. And to be honest, I don’t know one couple that is living the happily ever after life they’ve been promised. Anyways, is there only one real definition of a family? 

For now, I believe that we can love, and it is good to love and be loved. But it doesn’t have to last. We have more than one soulmate. It is wise to let go, stay friends and be happy. Being happy is the most important, and if someone makes you happy then be with that person. If they don’t make you happy, then it is time to move on.

The one thing I’m not sure about is, when this person doesn’t make you happy anymore, is it worth fighting for? Maybe you’ve had your moment and weren’t meant to be together forever. Is fighting a waste of time, and will it just ruin a friendship? Or does it really make a relationship stronger like some people say? I guess if you think that you’ve given it your best and it still doesn’t work out, that’s when you should stop it. But when is enough, enough? 

It is simple actually: are you happy? 

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Brightly Wound - Eisley

“Be who you are and say what you feel: because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” 

-Dr. Seuss

I wonder if I’ve been changed in the night? Let me think. Was I the same when I got up this morning? I almost think I can remember feeling a little different. But if I’m not the same, the next question is ‘Who in the world am I?’ Ah, that’s the great puzzle! If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn’t. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn’t be. And what it wouldn’t be, it would. You see?

Lewis Carroll

Weekend!

Hmm

Seriously? I'd like to be all of these... maybe not the outcast! :p

Is it our turn to man up?

Under the smoldering sun, my girlfriends and I were talking away with a tasty bagel in one hand and an ice caramel latte in the other. Now the topic du jour... boys, seems like a constant in pretty much every conversation. One way or the other it's a reoccurring theme and we can't seem to talk about much else. (shoes, make up, annoying girls and boys. Hot boys, mean guys, sexy studs, a-holes, how we want a man, need a man, how to dump one, control one, ....)

We ended up talking about how these days boys, stay boys... they don't act like men any more. You know the rough, ballsy, go get'em type that secretly every girl wants. We don't wanna hear about your feelings, just throw us around the room and we're happy. 

The thought of the day was: should we still sit back and wait for the guy to ask us out on a date? Wait for the guy to send the first text or is it our turn to man up and take the first step. 

And then, an admittedly funny but very scary thought was thrown in the group... in a few years, our grand daughters will probably be the ones asking boys out and this will be a normal "man to man" conversation:

a: "Dude, I've been waiting for a text from her for over an hour already!"

b: "Why don't you just send a text first?"

a: "Are you crazy, hells no I'm sending her a text first! That's her job, if she wants me she better work for it"

b: "Aw man, ur totally right... Yesterday, this chick made a move on me, but I totally gave her the cheek!"

a & b:"hahahhah"

We all love the game, but we don't wanna play alone. 

You know what, I don't care about being a modern ballsy gal, I don't have balls... I wanna be chased and pursued.  Want him to practically beg me out on a date and woo me all the way. I think we pretty much all agree... right girls?

So our message to modern boys out there:

Man Up! :-)

Wake up call

#Truth

Rise and grind!

Last styling session, Hands up for fresh talent #7 styled by "Fashionblog Bo"

For our very last concert of the "hands up for fresh talent" tour in Gent, I was styled by Bo who owns the fashion blog: https://bobaccarne.wordpress.com//

I loved this outfit so much! Really wish I could've kept it :p Loved the boots, the dress, the scarf, the hat... it was just completely adorable!

Dress, Jacket: Zara; Scarf: H&M; Boots: Firetrap; Jewelry: Vintage

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xoxo
Alice

Fashion Help!

So I spotted these skirts last weekend in River Island. Now I'm a cheap-o, must be that little Dutch part deep inside me, but I don't buy clothes or things that cost more than 20 €. Luckily I am an awesome bargain hunter and get a huge rush from finding awesome pieces at great prices :-)

So now my dilemma is, this skirt... costs about 40 €, which is OUTRAGEOUS! But I'm so in love with it, even more, I'm in love with all the different colors and patterns they sell them in... so I need your help! Either tell me where I can find a price savvier version of this skirt, or I'll let myself go for once, and in that case please tell me which color you like most!

cute

lovely

funky

preppy

On another note... how awesome are these Zara shoes?!?

Saw them on a few different fashion blogs and I need them like right now!

T-shirt that every blogster should own ;-)

xoxo

Alice

 

Goodmorning

Styling #5 Antwerpen by "Glamour Bbey"

Finally on our last day of the "Hands up for fresh talent" tour we had the opportunity to perform in my home town Antwerp!
I was so excited because my friends were able to come watch and didn't have to drive to the end of the world for it. This time I was styled by Cindy, who owns the blog: http://glamour-bbey.blogspot.com/.
She is super friendly and very stylish, she was wearing an awesome outfit herself and I actually went out and bought the shoes she was wearing!

Dress: H&M. Shoes & Socks: New Look. Hat & Bracelet: Vintage

Cindy and I (check out her pink shoes, totally bought them!)

Don't forget you can still vote till the end of June!

Did I mention you can win 2 festival tickets!?!

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#truth

Happy Monday!

Happy monday everyone! For me this is the start of a very studious week. Or at least it should be with my first exam coming up pretty soon, i'll try to lock myself up and study study study. I've never been really good at the whole study thing... short concentration span but I'll do my best, today I'll be tackling history. Very interesting so should be ok :-)

My Sis and I on saturday. It was SO HOT!

Bday prezzie... how cool is this!?!

I won't forget my new license plate fast.. best friends forever! :p

My sisters and our new baby cousin... he's so cute! 

Have a great week!

Love,

Alice

Be You!

I’m no beauty queen
I’m just beautiful me

-Selena Gomez

SMILE

Headlock - Imogen Heap

I love smiling at strangers! It confuses them so much.

OR

"We’re born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we’re not alone."

-Orson Welles

Single and ready to mingle?

So I'm recently single. Well depends on what you consider recent; for me it feels like ages already but it's been more or less two months. You decide. In these two months, which has btw probably been the longest time i've been single since in a while (serial monogamist), I've realized it's so easy to be in love. Don't get me wrong; I don't crush easily but i just love being in love. Ever since my ex and I broke up (mutual decision, good guy, but didn't work out) it's like i have so much free time to just do nothing and think. And this is, I realize, why I (and prob everyone else) love being in love... when you are in this crazy rush of endorphins, even when ur not with the lucky guy you can still think about him. Think about the funny things that happened to you as a couple, think about the romantic memories, your future babies, you ripping his shirt off (ok I'll stop myself right here) but you know... But now when I'm bored and my mind starts buzzing, it's like hmmm what should i think about, and it's scary because you start thinking about yourself and who you are, what you want and realize you don't really know any of  the above. This makes me nervous. And then before i know it I have to stop myself from grabbing my cell and texting the cutest, funniest, smartest, hell first name under A guy, in order to stop myself from thinking these crazy thoughts. You know just as a diversion. Luckily I've been able to resist (so far). But it's damn hard to be alone, just you by yourself. So I've told myself, no relationships until I can just relax in my room all by myself and not be freaked out  but just be at peace and happy. Maybe only the odd FFF (friendships,flings and fwbs), we'll see, although I guess that's still a diversion so not really fair. So now when I see one of my single friends jump at their phones when we're having a girls night, I understand. I never knew it was like this. But i'm learning to enjoy it, and I'm having a blast with my girlfriends. 
Single and ready to mingle ;-)

More serious blogging tomorrow!

well just fun blogging :-)

Just sayin

“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming him, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy.”

- Dr. Wayne W. Dyer, is a best-selling author and motivational speaker.

xoxo

Alice

Celebrating my 21st Bday!

On the 16th of may I turned 21... for those of you who know me, you know that I hate hate hateeee getting 'older', just growing up in general. I'm so obsessed with living in the moment and not worrying about the future, that all I do is worry about not living in the moment... how ironic but oh so very annoying!

I was always worrying that I was missing out on my childhood and not enjoying it enough... and boom all of a sudden I was 18! And was one of those kids who was always thinking too much...

Just have to let it go and not worry about the age thing.. because in the end it is just a number. I guess it's about how you feel... and right now I feel like climbing a tree!

#truth

Styling #4 Luik at night "alertealiege.canalblog.com"

After our noon concert in Luik, we also played an evening show... this time I was styled by the lovely blog "Alert a Liege"

For the full review check out this link! (French)

http://alertealiege.canalblog.com/archives/2011/05/06/21067240.html

Very hippie chique, n'est ce pas?

I tried to upload more pics but for some reason the "server is rejecting" them... Laptops, computers, internet, cellphones..; all modern equipment doesn't seem to like me... Oh well, I'll deal with it!

Check out http://www.alertealiege.canalblog.com/ for more pics!

Just sayin

“There are no mistakes. The events we bring upon ourselves, no matter how unpleasant, are necessary in order to learn what we need to learn; whatever steps we take, they’re necessary to reach the places we’ve chosen to go.”

- Richard Bach, is a best-selling American writer.

“All people dream, but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their mind, wake in the morning to find that it was vanity. But the dreamers of the day are dangerous people, For they dream their dreams with open eyes, And make them come true.”

- D.H. Lawrence, was an English author, poet, playwright and essayist.

xoxo

-Alice A.

More pics from Liege

Some extra pics from the performance in Luik 

This is Lorraine, she styled me... she is so funny and cute!

I'm obsessed with this Isabelle Lenfant jewelry! 

Styling #3 Luik "Lorrainefstyle.com"

Last week we played in Luik... Now I have to tell you eventhough it's still Belgium, it feels like you're in a different country, where people only speak french! So ofcourse I started off by saying "Bonjour Liege!" but seriously I wasn't gonna embarrass myself so just spoke english for the rest of the show but that didnt seem to work either, the only guys who seemed to understand were the hobo's who were enthusiastically dancing in front of the stage. So next time I'm playing in Wallonia I'm defnitly taking a crash course french...

Anyhoo, for this show I was styled by Lorraine; a very sweet and awesome girl who's been blogging for ages and has an amazing taste. Definitly check out her blog: http://www.lorrainefstyle.com/ 

Here are some pics of the outfit she put together for me (which my band btw loved!)

Shorts & Top: H&M, Bracelet: Vintage

Shoes: H&M

End result!

Read the interview Hands up for fresh talent had with Lorraine about this gig

http://freshtalent.tumblr.com/

Have a great day everyone!

xoxo

Alice

Styling #2 Leuven "The fashionFolio"

Last week our "hands up for fresh talent" tour rocked out Leuven.

The crowd was amazing and the sun was shining so we couldn't ask for more.

For this show I was styled by Afrodite from the blog:

http://thefashionfolio.blogspot.com/

I loved the outfit she put together for me; fun, cute and festivally.



Silver bracelet: Isabelle Lenfant; Colorful bracelets: H&M



Top, shorts and earrings: H&M



Boots: Claire's



Afrodite and I talking business

 

Next up: Luik

xoxo

Alice